In my two years at Converse, I have learned a lot, experienced a lot, and fought many battles but most importantly, I have overcome a lot. During this time I have contemplated giving up far more times than I can count on my fingers and toes. This thought arose when I felt like I didn't fit in. When things got "too tough" for me. When I felt that I couldn't do it. Clearly, I "did it" because I have made it this far and am very happy to have experienced everything that I have.
My advice is to know how important it is for you not to stay in your room in fear of the people around you. You need to understand that all of the freshmen on campus are new, just like you. They each have their own fears and apprehensions, whether or not they show them. You are not alone and it is quite obvious! There are young women just like you every where you go! Go out and introduce yourself with hopes of building a strong friend group that will ultimately evolve into a family. You cannot survive college by yourself because you need to interact, make social connections and grow with the people around you. I would also suggest that you join clubs that interest you as a way to somewhat force you to interact. While doing all all of this extra curricular activity, you have to remember to manage your time very wisely. Don't overload yourself with the fear of not doing enough but be sure to involve yourself in things around campus. You can neither be in 15 places at once nor be a hermit. Balance is key. Finally, remember to have fun. Yes you will be stressed, that is inevitable but you have to allow yourself peace of mind every once in a while. I know you can do it. Good luck!
-NTP
I can relate to contemplating giving up. I can't even tell you how many times I said, "That's it, I'm dropping out" last week. Of course, I don't mean it whole heartily. Sometimes we doubt ourselves and we can be our own worst enemies. Its important to have the courage to keep going when times get tough. Freshman year is a year full of learning and opportunity. We are all new and we're all experiencing the same thing. It's important to remember that we are all in this together!
ReplyDeleteI really love the environment of intelligent and talented women here at Converse College, and it's hard not to recognize. Your advice about social connections and friendships in college will be very valuable to future generations here. It's absolutely necessary to befriend those who will be there to relate to you, support you, and laugh with you!
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